Heal Emotional Wounds.
Develop Secure Attachment
in Christ.
A Christ-centered healing experience combining the 460-page Anchored & Attached in Love Workbook + Companion Prayer Guide to help you understand attachment wounds, uncover unhealthy patterns, deepen your relationship with God, and experience lasting transformation.
Biblical Truth. Practical healing. Guided Prayer
100-day
Devotional
Scripture
Studies
Root
Work
Sticker Pack
& Tabs
Sanctuary
Prayer
Guided
Reflections
Worksheets
& Tools
MORE THAN A WORKBOOK
A Complete Healing Journey
The Anchored & Attached in Love Prayer Guide was intentionally designed to walk alongside your workbook, helping you take what you’re learning directly into God’s presence through Scripture, guided prayer, and reflection.
Your Companion Prayer Guide Includes:
Daily Sanctuary Prayer
Guided Prayers
Scripture Reflections
Prayer Journaling Pages
Sanctuary Worship Pages
Heart Examination Lists
Truth Anchors
Answered Prayer Tracker
Intercessory Prayer Pages
Sanctuary Prayer Reflections
Learn. Pray. Heal. Grow
As you journey through each chapter, the Prayer Guide provides practical tools to help you process emotional wounds, deepen your relationship with Christ, and cultivate a consistent prayer life. Together, these companion resources move beyond simply learning biblical truth—they help you experience lasting transformation through Christ.
Created by Someone
Who Has Walked This Journey
Anchored & Attached in Love wasn’t created from theory alone. It was born out of years of personal reflection, biblical study, professional counseling experience, and a desire to help women move beyond simply managing emotions to experiencing lasting transformation in Christ.
Every chapter is intentionally designed to help you understand your emotional patterns, uncover the roots beneath them, and invite God into the healing process.
See what’s inside
Watch a quick flip-through and see how the workbook’s pages, exercises, and creative tools support your healing journey.
Have you ever…
Loved Jesus but still felt rejected?
Struggled to receive God's love?
Repeated unhealthy relationship patterns?
Felt emotionally disconnected?
Wondered why healing seems so difficult?
You're not alone!
Your past experiences may have shaped the way you see yourself, others, and even God. But healing is possible.
God can rewrite your story.
A 4-Part Journey Toward Healing & Secure Attachment
Part 1
Anchored in Love
Building Security in Christ
Understanding attachment and breaking the cycle of wounds.
Part 2
Reattaching to Our First Love
Restoring Intimacy with God
Examining childhood and generational patterns while redirecting unmet needs and longing toward safety and intimacy with God.
Part 3
Released to Restore
A Biblical Path to Forgiveness and Freedom
Processing hurt, releasing unforgiveness, understanding emotional patterns, and replacing deeply rooted lies with God’s truth.
Part 4
Living Restored and Secure
Walking in Wholeness
Communicating truth in grace, interceding in love, and connecting from a healed heart.
Take a Look Inside
Sneak a peek at the beautifully designed layouts and interactive tools.
Testimonials
See what women are saying about Anchored & Attached in Love.
"If you can't book Denetra for therapy, this book is the next best thing. She goes deep, and the detail is all there. Even after working with her for a few years, it's still been a huge help, not just in freeing me from some mental and emotional strongholds but in strengthening my relationship with God. Whatever the price, it's worth double."
"Although I haven't finished the book yet, within just the first few pages of this Holy Spirit-led workbook, I already sense that healing is around the corner. I truly believe Anchored and Attached in Love is transformational and, without a doubt, life-changing. This book is challenging me to dig deeper, uncover the root issues, and build a more intimate relationship with God. I can't recommend this book highly enough."
"What I appreciate most about Anchored & Attached in Love is its ability to thoughtfully blend psychological insights with biblical principles, addressing healing from a whole-person perspective: emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. It has challenged me to seek God first rather than turning to Him only after exhausting my own ideas and solutions, helping me develop a deeper trust in His wisdom and guidance."
"Anchored & Attached in Love helped me reflect more deeply on my emotional needs, attachment patterns, and relationships. I appreciate how the workbook connects practical exercises with biblical principles and encouraged me to view myself through the lens of God’s love. The questions challenge me to confront unhealthy beliefs while also giving me hope for healing and personal growth."
"This practical, Christ-centered workbook helps you understand unhealthy attachment patterns, uncover their root causes, and find healing and freedom in Christ. Although I was familiar with many concepts from Denetra’s previous attachment workbook, I appreciate the deeper insight and practical tools included here. Through biblical truth and easy-to-follow exercises, it addresses emotional wounds, boundaries, forgiveness, identity, and spiritual growth."
Why This Workbook Is Different
Most resources ask:
“What are you struggling with?”
Anchored & Attached in Love asks:
“Where did this struggle begin?”
Because lasting healing doesn’t happen by managing symptoms alone. It happens when we prayerfully uncover the roots of our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and relationship patterns and invite Christ into the healing process.
See the Difference
Bible Studies & Workbooks
Anchored & Attached in Love
Bible Studies & Workbooks
Anchored & Attached in Love
Anchored & Attached in Love was intentionally created to help you move beyond simply knowing biblical truth to experiencing it personally as you learn to abide securely in Christ’s love.
FOR INDIVIDUALS AND LEADERS
Choose Your Healing Journey
Whether you're seeking personal healing, strengthening your prayer life, or equipping a small group, you'll find a bundle that meets you where you are and helps you move toward lasting transformation.
Digital DIY Bundle
$99
Everything You Need to Print, Customize, and Create Your Own Healing Experience
What's included:
Anchored & Attached in Love Workbook (Digital and Print PDF)
Anchored & Attached in Love Prayer Guide (Digital and Print PDF)
Anchored & Attached in Love 100-Day Devotional Journal (Digital and Print PDF)
Printable Sticker Pack
Printable Mini Tabs
Best for:Tablet annotation
Home printing
3-ring binders
Cinch-bound workbooks
Discbound planners
Happy Planner®
Complete Workbook Bundle
$199
Everything You Need for a Complete, Ready-to-Use Healing Journey with Jesus
What's included:
Anchored & Attached in Love Workbook (printed spiral bound)
Anchored & Attached in Love Prayer Guide (printed spiral bound)
Anchored & Attached in Love 100-Day Devotional Journal (Digital PDF)
Sticker Pack
Mini Tabs
Best for:A self-healing journey with Jesus
Professional printed materials
Everything together in one package
A complete personal healing experience
A beautiful keepsake for your journey
Complete Leader Bundle
$599
Everything You Need to Heal Personally and Lead the 24-Week Journey
What's included:
Anchored & Attached in Love Workbook (printed spiral bound)
Anchored & Attached in Love Prayer Guide (printed spiral bound)
Anchored & Attached in Love Leader Guide
Anchored & Attached in Love 100-Day Devotional Journal (Digital PDF)
Eight Module Self-Paced Leader Preparation Course
Leadership Scripts, Checklist, and Templates
Leadership Reflection Tools
Sticker Pack
Mini Tabs
Best for:Ministry Leaders
Counselors
Bible Study Leaders
Women’s small groups
COMING SOON
"I created Anchored & Attached in Love for the woman who loves God deeply but still feels emotionally stuck, disconnected, afraid, or unsure how to receive His love.”
As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Christian counselor, I have seen how early wounds, attachment patterns, and painful relationships can shape the way we connect with God, ourselves, and others. This workbook was written to help you slow down, identify the roots, bring them before Christ, and learn to abide securely in His love.
My prayer is that this resource helps you not only understand your story but also experience healing, truth, and deeper connection with Jesus.
Denetra Gary, LCSW
Author, Creator, Mental Health Clinician, and Founder of Complement & Complete
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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Anchored & Attached in Love is designed for Christian women who desire deeper emotional healing, healthier relationships, and a more secure connection with God.
It may be especially helpful for women who:
struggle with rejection, abandonment, anxiety, loneliness, or emotional disconnection
notice unhealthy attachment, relationship, or communication patterns
desire to understand how past experiences may be affecting the present
want to establish healthier boundaries and emotional safety
are working through forgiveness, negative beliefs, family patterns, or unmet emotional needs
long to become more deeply rooted in their identity, security, and purpose in Christ
The workbook may be completed individually, alongside the devotional and Prayer Guide, or as part of a guided group journey. It is a Christ-centered personal-growth resource and is not a replacement for professional mental health treatment or crisis care.
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Yes, men and women can both experience attachment wounds, emotional pain, unhealthy relationship patterns, and difficulty feeling securely connected to God.
However, Anchored & Attached in Love was intentionally written for women. Its language, examples, reflections, relational themes, and overall presentation are shaped around experiences that commonly arise in women’s emotional and spiritual lives.
The biblical truths and many of the healing principles may apply more broadly, but this particular resource was created to provide women with a focused, relatable, and supportive journey toward becoming more securely anchored in Christ.
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No. The workbook was written to be accessible to everyday women while also providing meaningful depth. Concepts are explained in a practical and easy-to-understand way, making it suitable whether you are new to attachment theory or have studied it before.
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The workbook explores:
Biblical attachment and connection with God
Attachment styles and relationship patterns
Neurobiology and the nervous system
Emotional regulation
Core beliefs and identity
Communication and conflict
Boundaries and healthy relationships
Trauma-informed healing and abuse
Spiritual growth and restoration
Practical tools for lasting change
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No. Anchored & Attached in Love is designed to support your healing journey, not pressure you to complete every exercise. Some sections may speak directly to your current season, while others may be more helpful later.
You are encouraged to move prayerfully, pause when needed, and focus on the areas God is bringing to your attention. The goal is not to finish every page, but to engage honestly, safely, and meaningfully with the process.
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Some sections may bring increased awareness of painful experiences, beliefs, relationships, or emotional patterns. You are encouraged to move slowly, pause when needed, and avoid pressuring yourself to complete a section before you feel ready.
You may return to prayer, use the Prayer Guide, speak with a trusted support person, or seek help from a licensed mental health professional when additional care is needed. This workbook is a personal growth resource and is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, or crisis support.
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The workbook is designed to move at your own pace. Some women may complete it in several weeks, while others may spend several months working through the exercises, journaling prompts, and reflection questions.
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Yes. The workbook may be used in two different ways:
Informal group: A few women may work through the workbook together for encouragement, accountability, prayer, and discussion. This type of group is peer-led and does not follow the official 24-week group format.
Formal guided group: An official Anchored & Attached in Love group should have a designated leader who uses the Leader Guide and completes the Leader Preparation Course. Because the journey includes sensitive emotional, relational, and spiritual topics, the course helps the leader maintain appropriate pace, boundaries, safety, and a Christ-centered focus.
Each participant should have her own workbook. The group is not therapy and should not be used to diagnose, treat, or process trauma.
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No. The workbook is an educational and spiritual growth resource and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional counseling, therapy, or medical care. However, many individuals find it beneficial alongside counseling or coaching.
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No. While women who have experienced trauma may find the material especially helpful, the workbook is designed for anyone who wants to understand their attachment patterns, strengthen relationships, and grow closer to God.
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Anchored & Attached in Love is intended to be useful to women across a variety of Christian denominations. It is grounded in Scripture and presents emotional and relational healing through a Christ-centered, biblical framework.
The workbook uses the King James Version of the Bible. It follows the sanctuary as a spiritual pathway of drawing near to God through honesty, surrender, renewal, truth, prayer, and abiding in Christ. It does not promote New Age spirituality, self-healing apart from God, or the belief that personal growth replaces the work of Christ.
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No. Your workbook responses are personal and may remain completely private. Even when participating in a group, you should never feel pressured to share personal experiences, workbook answers, or details you are not comfortable discussing.
Group participation may include prayer, general reflection, and discussion, but vulnerability should always be invited rather than required. You are encouraged to share only what feels appropriate and safe.
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Anchored & Attached in Love is written primarily for adult women. Because it explores attachment wounds, childhood experiences, abuse, relationships, family patterns, emotional needs, and forgiveness, it may not be appropriate for children or younger teens without guidance from a parent, counselor, or other qualified support person.
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Anchored & Attached in Love does more than help women identify emotional wounds or understand why they respond the way they do. It provides a deeply Christ-centered pathway for tracing present struggles to their emotional, relational, and spiritual roots and bringing those areas into the healing presence of God.
The workbook uniquely brings together:
biblical truth and Scripture application
attachment theory and early relational patterns
trauma awareness and neurobiology
emotional and relational assessments
practical tools for boundaries, communication, forgiveness, and truth replacement
guided reflection and prayer
the sanctuary as a pathway of honesty, surrender, renewal, truth, and abiding in Christ
This is not a New Age resource, a general spirituality workbook, or an inner-child healing program. It does not teach women to look within themselves as the source of healing, connect with a higher self, manifest change, or rely on spiritual practices apart from Christ.
Instead, the workbook helps women understand what has shaped them, recognize the lies and patterns that keep them emotionally bound, and cooperate with Christ as He brings truth, safety, restoration, and freedom.
The goal is not simply self-awareness, self-improvement, or better coping. It is to become more securely anchored in Christ, more emotionally whole, and better able to relate to God and others from a place of truth, wisdom, and healthy connection.